lucindashirleydancingonmars: Inspired by Susan Shapiro

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Dancing on Mars ( published by All Things That Matter Press)—is available for Nook at Barnes and Noble online and at Amazon in paperback, Kindle, and audio. To check out reviews or order your own version: http://www.amazon.com/Dancing-Mars-Lucinda-Shirley/product-reviews/0985006617/ref=sr_1_1_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1

One reader says, "Dancing on Mars is a genre-bender, mixing interview, memoir and original poems. It's a feast, not an appetizer!"

Here's how author Cassie Premo Steele describes it: "They say 'the truth shall set you free,' and here it is: a truth-telling memoir about growing up in the small-town, segregated South—politics, sex and religion; relationship, marriage and motherhood; loss, healing, feminism and enlightenment; and the bare beauty of a life by the water's edge. . . ."

There are also some fascinating insights from other women on the subject of living married and single lifestyles— and a sprinkling of original poems to amplify relevant prose.

One reviewer says, "This is EveryWoman's book—every age, every experience. You will laugh, cry and learn through this fascinating, honest and courageous journey to one woman's truth, but you won't put it down." A few wise men have enjoyed it and learned more about women.

You'll find a book trailer here and photos from the hometown in Dancing on Mars. I'll be posting comments and sharing book reviews, writing about themes presented in the book, and sometimes commenting on the events of the day. Humor will be in the mix; it's a high-value aspect of my life.

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Lucinda

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Inspired by Susan Shapiro

The Dixie Dove shared Susan Shapiro's recent NYT article about making the reader worry you're not okay; in fact, she requires her students to write what she calls "the humiliation essay"

Shapiro says:

Over 20 years of teaching, I have made "the humiliation essay" my signature assignment. It encourages students to shed vanity and pretension and relive an embarrassing moment that makes them look silly, fearful, fragile or naked. You can't remain removed and dignified and ace it. I do promise my students, though, that through the art of writing, they can transform their worst experience into the most beautiful. I found that those who cried while reading their piece aloud often later saw it in print. I believe that's because they were coming from the right place - not the hip, but the heart.

This interesting piece helped me see, clearly, that I didn't tell as much as I could have—should have if the objective was to sell books and make readers want more. I have miles to go to reach the point where I care more about my work than about hurting or humiliating others. Sadly, some of the people I protect aren't nearly as protective of my feelings! Shapiro adds these words which get a standing ovation from me:

This brings me to my one caveat: while readers will applaud your brave, tumultuous disclosures, your relatives won't. The first piece you write that your family hates means you found your voice, I warn my classes. If you want to be popular with your parents and siblings, try cookbooks.

Now that gem inspires me. Next time I write first-person nonfiction, I'm hoping the relatives all hate it. Some of them judged DANCING ON MARS and tried to make me a reservation in Hell; they enjoyed feeling superior. Next time my goal is for them to hate it! Maybe I'll even plug them in to some memories of humiliation and self-loathing.

Susan Shapiro's piece was from the New York Times opinionator blog, 12/31/12. Apologies that the link I had doesn't work. No clue why. Didn't want to scrap this post because of that shortcoming. I'm sure you'll find it if you want to read it all. Cheers!

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REVIEWS for DANCING ON MARS

A delightful book... (by LP - at Amazon)

Lucinda Shirley opens up her life to readers in the warmest, most engaging and enlightening way. It is easy to relate to the changes and challenges she shares, especially as a southern woman. I love that she weaves her wonderful poetry throughout the book; it accentuates her wisdom, her questioning of the 'status quo' and her great sense of humor. I highly recommend the book... a great read!

THE BUZZ:

(Excerpts from Reviews and Articles about Dancing on Mars:)

“Lucinda Shirley is a fearless writer. You will laugh out loud at her sassy wit, but be prepared to cry as well.” ... “Great lessons on co-dependence, compulsive pleasing and finding oneself ... A terrific writer, her eminently readable story is filled with honest reflection, humor, pathos, lessons learned and spiritual and emotional awakening. There is something here for everyone. Enjoy!”

... “More than a memoir, the author generously opens her exploration to include the perspectives of other women. ... A great individual read, also a stimulating read for a women’s discussion or book group.”

“Warm, generous and affirming ....” “An unusual exploration of an interesting life.”

“Dancing on Mars is THE guide for women ready to split the world wide open with their truth and freedom of expression .... Buy it. Read it. Do it!”

“Read this book and be challenged and inspired.”

“I’m reading Dancing on Mars slowly because I don’t want it to end!”

“Reflective insights on topics which will ring true to all women ....”

“... A story dotted with insights into what makes us who we are. [The author] faced the unhappy and problematic, all the while celebrating the joy to be found all around.” “Loved the original poems ... And the reflective essays scattered throughout the book.” “Dancing on Mars is a feast, not an appetizer.” “... A well-written and refreshing book ...loved the mix of personal story, stories from others, and poems that really speak.” “I am not from the South and my journey is different, but it is amazig how much all women have in common. It is a great book for any woman seeking her own truth, wisdom and growth.”

“If you’ve never examined your life in a deep way, you’ll find yourself doing it while reading this book. Consider it a layman’s guide and Ms. Shirley’s gift. I say “thanks!”

Dancing on Mars left me feeling very good about life, even the not-so-good parts. ...She describes things important to her that I’ve never considered but now will. The author’s artistic soul and sense of humor kept me reading!”

“Dancing on Mars deserves a five-star rating!”

“With her humorous, strong, smart Southern self, Lucinda Shirley shares her experiences with relationships, love, joy, pain and happiness in her own unique style that will inspire you to examine your life from a more conscious place of awareness.”

“Even though it’s been called ‘EveryWoman’s book’ I know a no-nonsense Marine (Viet Nam vet) who said: This is a GREAT book!”

Comments from e-mails and Facebook

"Your writing, including the bird at your car's rear view mirror, almost made me choke on my coffee it is so funny." ~ Roberta J.

On Facebook from childhood friend Joyce who gave me the gift of a memory in her comments:

"Just finished reading Dancing On Mars. It's an amazing read. I couldn't put it down. Also loved some of those walks down memory lane. I remember as a teenager when we would walk as a group to town and if we crossed "main street" you would hold out your arms to keep all of us from crossing in front of a car. Always the protector!"

"Read it; loved it!!!" ~ T.F.

"Your book is fantastic! ...I read the last post twice. Looking forward to reading this one." ~ Dianne C.

"It's so easy to read what you write, just like talking to you. All writers strive for that. My favorite story was that of Mary and her ark of promise you found." ~ S. Smith

"I love your writing and the pieces posted. I can hardly wait to read the entire book." ~ T. T.

"I'm thinking how helpful this would have been in my late teens, then into my first marriage, divorce, etc,. up until now. I appreciate that the perspectives in your book caused me to ponder and explore my own experiences, and understanding, of being alone, partnered and/or married. All of these I have attempted more than once. After 60 years of experience, I finally truly believed that I deserve to be in a successful, healthy relationship and that there are plenty of "good" men out there. And perhaps more importantly, I have an inner peace and joy...regardless of my marital status." ~ OM. C.

Cassie on FB: "LOVE it!!!!!"

GM says, "Your writing takes my breath away. It just seems to flow off the page."

Rebecca wrote on FB: "LOVED reading it. As a 47 yr old single working mom still wading thru trials and tribulations of how to fit a relationship into my life and figuring out what kind of man is the right fit, I found these women's stories to be very insightful. Thanks for sharing it!"

From FB: "I've really enjoyed reading your blog. I love all the insight. Thank you so much for sharing." ~ JFS

Third-draft reader, Pat Mikelson, says:

"This is EveryWoman's book - every age, every experience. You will laugh, cry and learn through this fascinating, honest and courageous journey to one woman's truth - but you won't put it down."